Monthly archives: November, 2016

I know what you mean and thanks for your reply

I know what you mean and thanks for your reply. However, I am delivering my baby at El Camino Hospital where you are allowed a maximum of 3 support people during labor (and no tag teams!) so with my midwife (whom I am hoping will also come prepared with numerous tricks up her sleeve when it comes to easing my efforts in labor! ie massage, positions etc) my husband and my mother present, that would fill my quota.

Also I am thinking that having 4 people trying to support me at one time might be a bit of an overload…it’s kind of like: too many cooks…..?

Keeping in mind that at El Camino you also have one nurse assigned to you during active labor as well!

Besides, I am feeling quite fortunate to have a midwife. If I would “only” have my Ob/Gyn, who would rush in just in time for the pushing part of it, I would definitely want a doula!! 😉

Thank you to all of you for taking the time to answer my questions, it makes making these decisions so much easier!

Am I the only pregnant woman on this list with questions btw? It really it awfully quiet in here ;-)))


I think it’s great for you that your mom is going to be there

I also think it’s great for you that your mom is going to be there. It sounds like she has the right kind of life experience… However, you might want to consider a doula as well. Although as a doula I might not be objective 🙂 but here are some of the reasons…

If you wish to spend as much time at home as possible, a doula usually has the tools to help you decide when would be a good time to leave for the hospital. Besides, even at the hospital, an extra pair of well-trained hands can never hurt… (Lin & Olga, please correct me if I’m wrong.) Even with a midwife around, a birth (especially the first) can be a very long process, so a doula can help just by being there, and sharing the hard work of giving labor support. A doulas has many tricks and gadgets to help when the labor is progressing too slow, such as massage, aromatherapy, different positions and so on.

However, if you prefer not to invest too much money in such services, you might consider hiring a doula in training (like myself 🙂 that is usually charging much less…

Also watch this video:

I hope this helps… Don’t hesitate to ask me any other questions you might have.