Found your blog and find it very helpful…. Please read the following post and let me know if you can derive anything from it. Hello all, I just wanted to drop a line and give an example of the legal drama I am going through at the hands of a deceptive woman I thought loved me. We were married for about 8 months, and our child is 4 months old. It was a long distance relationship from the US to Ireland were she is from. She became pregnant and had our child here in the US. Things quickly fell apart after her family came here to visit for the Christening, and I was the victim of months of verbal abuse after that visit, as her family tried to convince her to come home.

To get to the punch quickly, I came across evidence on my hard drive, word for word that she was conspiring with her mother and sister in Ireland to sneak the child back there when I was to go away for a few days for my birthday in April. The email was to her ex-boyfriend and to one of her best friends. I immediately went to court to get an order of protection against her and told the female judge this woman was unstable and could resort to violence. She only gave me an order barring her from leaving the US with my son, and made me continue to live in the same house with this woman. After she was served she became very hostile towards me and continued to try and provoke me to fight her to get me arrested. On 3/5/2000, we both had a verbal argument after I accused her of removing some of my legal docs after I went to the bathroom.

She then started yelling and I went to call the police. She chased me to my room where the phone is and ripped it from my hands and out of the wall. She then threw it at me and it bruised my left forearm. I ran out of the house and called police who then arrested her for felony assault. The police were clearly on her side and gave me bad info, that if I did not go to court to press charges, she would be released that day. Since I did not want this to happen, I refused initial medical treatment and went to the court. When I spoke to the DA, they had decided to reduce the charges to misdemeanor assault/harassment. The judge who saw her for the assault also issued her and order of protection to stay away from me. You could just imagine what they would have done to me if the roles were reversed! I went to family court the next day and got the original order modified to keep her away from my son and I, my house, work and mothers’ house as she has a rough family who live all around the area we lived together initially. We are now staying with my mother temporarily and I have Temporary full custody of my child for 2 weeks until we go to court.

She showed up at my moms’ with the police last night to serve me with a summons to appear in court the day after we go to family court, most probably to get back custody of my child. Right now I am struggling to get an attorney to fight her for a Divorce and Full Custody of my child. She is an alcoholic but unfortunately it is undocumented so I can’t prove it. It is killing me that this person could possible get him again, and have me pay her way the rest of her life. Her status with the INS right now is in limbo as I removed all petitions on her behalf. If the court awards her custody I can kiss my son goodbye as she can then leave the US with him and I can’t stop her at all.

Also, since she has been at home with him since he was born and I work for a living, I feel they will give her custody just on that fact alone. Please pass this on to any fathers who might be helped by this story, and remember, never hit the woman! Even when you are in the right, as you can see by the hoops I have to jump through, the odds are stacked against you. You alone can fight back but fight for the sake of the children, and do it in the legal system.